Can You Afford a Baby?

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Young Family with BabyThe story is always the same.

You’re married for a few years and your parents eventually ask the question: “So when are we going to get a grandchild?”

My response was, “When we can afford one.” And the quick comeback was always, “Oh honey, you can never really afford one, so there’s no reason to wait.”

Granted, most grandparents-in-waiting aren’t being objective when it comes to the question of being financially ready for children. But to better understand what being financially prepared for a new child actually implies, you would do well to read through the following advice.

The True Cost of a Baby?

Like many pre-child couples out there, my wife and I were basically ignorant about the overall cost of the birthing process and the yearly expenses associated with a new child.

Not only that, but we were really unprepared about how much a baby would affect our overall financial situation.

“Childbirth and prenatal health care cost averaged $7,090 for normal delivery in the US… [The] US Department of Agriculture estimates that a US family will spend an average of $11,000 to $23,000 per year for the first 17 years of child’s life on a child born in 2007.” – Wikipedia

On the surface, these amounts seem a little high. But after 3 years into parenthood, I can tell you that it’s not that far off. Sure, it varies by state, by hospital, and by personal preferences. But the time and effort you put into researching new-baby costs (immediate, monthly, and yearly) will be greatly rewarded.

Before Labor and Before Delivery

The costs associated with pregnancy and with the delivery process aren’t some big secret, you just need to know where to look and who to ask. So how do you find out?

Ask the People You Work With and and Family/Friends – the best place to find out about pregnancy and delivery costs are from people in your life who have recently had a child. Those who live in and around your community probably have a wealth of knowledge when it comes to local hospital and doctor fees. And think about this, a fellow employee who has a new baby can be a great source information about your employer’s health care coverage. It will help you plan and prepare if you get a good estimate about your out-of-pocket expenses.

Study Your Current Health Insurance Coverage – The time you take to study up on your health care coverage will be very beneficial. No one likes surprises when it comes to medical bills. Although it might not be exciting, take some time to fully read and understand the charges and percentages that your insurance provider will cover. My wife and I were allowed to switch our coverage plan after 2 months into her pregnancy. The new plan was more beneficial to our new situation, helping to lower the deductible and increasing the amount that would be covered. Of course, you should check with your provider before you attempt any such transition.

Call a Doctor – Don’t be intimidate about asking your doctor to give you an estimated cost of pre-labor office visits, hospital charges, and the delivery procedure. Bring a copy of your insurance, and the office assistant should give you a more detailed estimate specific to your coverage.

How Much Does a Baby Cost in the First Year

After nailing down preparation for pre-labor and deliver/hospital costs, you should consider examining the amount of money needed to get through your baby’s first year. Believe it or not, there are plenty of tools to help you get through this.

Baby Center Calculator – One of the best tools that I’ve found for approximating year-one costs is the cost calculator at BabyCenter.com. This tool takes into account items such as basic baby necessities (like beds, clothes, bottles, etc.) and even short-term or long-term income loss.

To Be Ready for a Baby, Take Action

You’ve put in the research time and developed a good estimate of costs associated with your new baby. It’s time to strategize about your finances.

Save Up – One of the best ways to prepare your finances for a new child is to save up enough money so that the pregnancy and delivery don’t drag you into debt. Take your total cost estimate from conception to year one and set a goal to achieve that amount. Depending on your current income and financial situation, if that goal is too lofty, at least try to save up for the estimate pertaining to the delivery and doctor’s visits.

You can start by dividing your total estimated costs by 10 whole months and save that amount each month as you approach delivery. If you’re already pregnant, simply divide the estimate by the # of whole months there is until your due date. Online savings accounts are great for this type of planning.

Reduce Your Excess Debt – Expecting a new child gives you a chance to re-prioritize your life and your expenses. Eliminating debt on your credit cards and student loan debt will allow you to breathe a little easier during this time of joy. How great would it be to start your new life with a new little one by living debt free?

My Final Thoughts

Remember, you have 9 months to prepare for your new bundle of joy. Don’t worry if you didn’t start early enough. Focus on becoming financially fit from this point forward. Take the time, do the work, and reap the benefits of financial preparation.

Photo by Kevin N. Murphy

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You don't take one penny with you when you die. Children are a blessing. I recommend being as generous as you are able with your children while you are raising them and as they begin their independent life as young adults. I sent my 5 children to parochial schools, which used up a lot of our budget, but it was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life. My husband and I also help out our young adult children with the downpayment on their first home, not completely giving them the downpayment but giving them a good portion of what they need. This allows them to purchase their first home faster. Just a few suggestions from a mother who has "been there, done that".

After the birth of our first, we have decided that when we get pregnant with #2 (or start trying) we will save up the max out of pocket amount for our health insurance. Even though we didn't max out the whole family with #1, we figure its a good idea to be prepared in case additional health care is needed.

As for the loss of income, we went to one income after #1 and it was really hard. We were fine for the first few months, but after a while the additional money we had on hand was gone and we realized how poor we really were. So I totally agree that its a great idea to save up money for the first year. You never realize how expensive things like diapers and formula are until you shell out the cash.

At first I thought the numbers sounded inflated until I did a quick summary of what I pay each year (my child is 5 years old):
daycare 7200
ballet/swim lessons 600
college savings 300
clothing 500
food 720
bday parties 190
healthcare 1716
dental 360
Xmas, easter, 150
Annual Total 11736

I consider myself very frugal, especially when it comes to food and clothing and it didn't take long to add up to almost $12,000 and I'm sure I'm missing a lot!

For me having children was a given, so I prepared for it financially just as I prepared for my own needs. Children do not have to cost a lot. I had great insurance so we spent under $1000 for our delivery. Tax credits and deductions help. Craigslist and children's consignment sales are great ways to get baby gear, clothes, and toys for very little money. Parks and libraries can take the place of expensive classes. The possibilities are endless.

One cost you didn't mention, however, is the cost of "trying" to have a baby. For people with fertility problems, this cost can be in the thousands! Nice post.

I think it's the Darwinian instinct to pass on one's genes that drives people to have babies. I'm sure many just so - "oh, it will all work out," or "God will provide." There's many religions that frown on using birth control, and families are huge!

I think you should have to take classes and pass a test to have children. And part of passing the test should be that you can afford these kids!

Thanks for this timely article. I just recently got married, and I'm looking for ways to be smart about money in the future, especially when it comes to children.

It kind of sucks how money can determine how a baby is raised, or if you should even have one or not, but that's the reality, and it's important to understand. Thanks again!

"People that have kids never look at it financially, they get emotionally attached and do stupid things and end up struggling for years."

Having kids was the single best financial move I ever made. Their presence made me rethink things and get my act together. With a one and a three year old at home, I'm now in the best financial shape of my life.

People that have kids never look at it financially, they get emotionally attached and do stupid things and end up struggling for years.

Great post and just in time..well not really..my wife is due in May so we dont have time to do some of the suggested but we already did some of them! Insurance/no Insurance changes everything too

Having a baby is like buying diamonds...if you have to ask how much it costs, you probably can't afford it.

I know a lot of people with children. Every one of them says that they had no idea that children would turn out to be so expensive. One chum has four kids under five-years-old and he's aged about twenty years in the past two. He's ALWAYS complaining about (a lack of) money.

I'm extremely blessed to have excellent health insurance. While it cost $10,500 for all prenatal care + delivery, we paid less than $300 out of our own pockets.

Since my baby is not yet four months old, I can't say for sure how much it will cost once he's older. But so far, he hasn't cost much of anything.

Thanks to tax credits, it seems we're financially breaking even so far.

I'm glad that we don't have much debt and have money in savings. This will allow us to continue to provide for our son and future children.

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